- FIVE: TALK SEXY AND DIRTY
There is power in the spoken and heard words and that applies to sex too. Sexy talks are known to make the blood flow faster during sex since the words stimulates what they physical touch can’t, the mind which is the biggest sexual organ. The spoken word evokes emotions, sensations and blood flow to various regions, depending on the topic.
Women are more susceptible to what goes into their ears more than men so sexy talks excites them more and faster than even touching and kisses. Practice sweet and sexy names to be calling each other during sex, also try by mentioning each other’s sexual organs with sexy names e.g. the jade for penis, honey pot for the vagina etc and many more.
Before engaging into some sex talks, make sure you are comfortable with each other since too much when someone is not used to may be a turn off, especially to someone still new to sex.
Read more on sex talks here.
- SIX: TRY VARIETIES
Sex is also something you can explore. Here, sex is limited to your imagination, comfort level, etc.
Try out various sex styles and techniques just to spice up your sex life. Try sex also in different locations of your house e.g. on the coach, sometimes in the bedroom floor etc
Also try varying sex durations and vigor e.g. try quickie sex lasting less than 10 minutes, try wild sex using a lot of energy and great moves, try marathon sex lasting as long as you can, try tantric sex that engages more of your senses than physical self, also try edging i.e. coming close to orgasm but staying on that aroused plateau for as long as you can so as to intensify the orgasm, or even try coitus reservitis a concept where the man/women or both partners enjoy intimacy but don’t let the sex end up in orgasm. This preserves the vital energy to be used later.
You can also try the concept of multiple orgasms and Taoism sex techniques where a man is capable of having a series of orgasm without ejaculating.
- SEVEN: MASSAGE EACH OTHER
Sensual touch is something that can really excite your partner’s senses and induce relaxation that is vital for sexual engagement. A sexual massage is the key to unlocking the sexual energy that may be lying dormant in your partner for a long time, or she/he does not even know it exists in her/his body.
Sexual massage is supposed to be one of the things lovers should master for each others’ sexual benefits. Massaging stimulates optimal blood flow to the body organs. You can have your partner lie on his/her stomach. Start by massaging the head sides to induce mental relaxation. Then massage your way slowly down her/his neck, the back, buttocks, don’t forget the hands especially the finger tips, and work all the way to the feet. You can add the pleasure by being more creative e.g. using a fine silk cloth or an improvised feather to massage and stimulate the nerve ends.
You can also have your partner lie facing up, massage him/her from the head towards the toes, and then pay special attention to the pubic area close to the sexual organs to stimulate blood flow and relaxation. This way, you may even discover each other’s hot spots and pleasure zones.
- EIGHT: BE A FREAK IN BED
After being in a relationship or marriage for a time, sex may tend to become boring. But being a bit adventurous and freaky in sex can end this boredom and keep the fire burning.
When the passionate moment is on, try doing a move that you rarely or have never done e.g. spank your partner’s butt, grab his butts and pull him vigorously inside you, gently but firmly squeeze her breasts, rub her clitoral hood vigorously, hold her hands as if handcuffing her and tell her, “now you are all mine”, be a bit acrobatic in sex as long as you can…etc its all about being creative and adventurous.
The reality is whatever you feel comfortable to do, do it and it will enhance your sex life more.
- NINE: TRY IN A NEW PLACE
You can as well try having sex in another place away from your normal settings e.g. in a park (as long as you won’t get caught), while swimming, in a sleep in hotel, etc. Some couples who really have build trust in each other swap homes during holidays or for a weekend too!
Whatever tickles your fancy can work for you. The rest is limited to your imaginations.
- TEN: FALL IN LOVE
This is by far the most important in passionate lovers, falling deeply in love. True passionate love enhances trust, closeness, self-appreciation and mutual appreciation, tender feelings, desire to please your partner, self-sacrifice etc
Engage often in all activities that enhance your love for each other e.g. walking hand in hand in a park, going on outings, playing games together, joking with each other and being playful, being romantic to each other, etc
Religious couples, who pray together, attend church services together etc tend to be closer to each other too. Always remember to pray to God too to enhance and protect your love.