During courtship there are some key elements of a potential partner that you cannot afford to ignore so that the resulting relationship and/or marriage will be successful. The elements follow each other in A B C D E F order, not necessarily in importance.
ONE: AGE
Many people keep on telling me that age is just a number, but biology says otherwise. For true compatibility with regards to social life, sexuality, intellect, etc it calls for someone who rhymes with your age. 42 years old can never reason the same as an inexperienced 20 years old mate. With little variation in age comes different experiences in social life and thus the greater the age difference the more the difference in experiences. Experiences in our lives to an extent determine how well we can reason under different circumstances. To be on the safe side, it is better to settle with someone who you can refer to as an age mate with little difference of age. Age difference though is a personal choice that is settled individually.
TWO: BEAUTY
Whenever I hear ladies talk of the proverbial “Tall, dark and handsome” man, I at times wonder whether the combination comes packaged with other benefits too. Physical beauty cannot be ignored. The physical outlook of your mate must be in accordance to your preference as everyone is created differently. Ask yourself, “Is this the type of a physical person I would like to be with, what changes are acceptable with regards to physicality, …” If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who currently you are not at ease with physically, e.g. weight, height, general outlook etc, and you enter into a long-term relationship with such, sooner or later the incompatibility will come back to haunt you. Does she meet your minimal beauty requirements; does he meet your minimal handsomeness requirements? If not don’t waste his/her time. It is better to end a relationship than marriage.
THREE: CHARACTER
Besides physical attributes, characters make the inner beauty of a person. How does he/she treat you, how does he/she handle herself in front of your parents, friends, relatives and strangers?, how does he/she respond to your needs?
Characters define a person since they are elements of someone’s personality and they serve very much to determine compatibility amongst two people. It is not a strict necessity to get someone who matches your characters but at minimum someone whose characters are agreeable to you.
